“Create the life you can’t wait to wake up to.”
Hey Mama! How are you doing? I mean, how are you really doing? Let’s talk about that.
Most of us are terrified to admit it, but we are completely unfulfilled. We pour ourselves into our kids, dote on our husbands, run errands for our neighbors, volunteer for our local school, and endlessly clean up the messes involved. As the years pass by, we slowly but surely forget who we are.
In the process of taking care of everyone else, we often ignore our needs, dreams, and desires. We forget what we really want out of life. Not what we want as Mom, not as a wife, but as Keri, or Margaret, or Amy.
Well, my name is Keri, and I am on a mission to build my dream life while raising my family. I want to help you do the same!
So What Can You Expect Here?
Families & Finance is a blog about hope and empowerment.
It is a place where you will find strategies for taking control of your money, your home, and your life.
It is a place where you will find encouragement and tactics to strive to be the best you can be. Where you will be reminded to pause and reflect on who you want to be and how to get there.
A place where you gain the confidence to give yourself permission to become the woman that you have buried deep inside. Give yourself permission for change so that you can create the life that you desire.
Here at Families & Finance, my goal is to give you a place where you will feel empowered to follow your dreams. To remind you that you can be an amazing mother, wife, and friend at the same time. Then to help you figure out how. Because you deserve to live your dream life. And the reality?
It’s that being a stay at home mom is the best opportunity you will ever have to figure out who you want to be and make your dreams come true.
So stick around. Cry a little, learn a lot, and dig deep because it is your time to take control.
Chris, My High School Sweetheart
Parker-6 years old
Loves riding bikes
Aaro-4 years old
Full of Love
Willow-2 years old
A Fork in the Road
I have always wanted to be a mom. I have also wanted to be a singer, an actress, an artist, a photographer, a motivational speaker, and an author. A realtor, interior designer, and mega house-flipper.
Honestly, this list could go on. There are so many incredible opportunities out there that I never figured out exactly who the heck I wanted to be. I just knew that I wanted to be somebody that made a real difference somehow.
Then, at 17 the world shifted. My boyfriend, Chris, and I found out that we were pregnant, and the big dreams that I had suddenly had a much smaller appeal. I was no longer envisioning myself as a businesswoman but as a mother.
When I had the opportunity to stay home and raise my baby, I thought that it would give me time. I could be the best mom ever while my kiddo was small. Then, later on, I could pursue that life that I had been preparing for.
Little did I know that my motivation was going to slowly fade away as I became trapped in the mundane of everyday tasks, and the challenges of living on a single income.
I went on to become overwhelmed and consumed by my task list. I cried over my messy home and the uneaten meals I spent hours making. I found myself feeling powerless in my situation, and trapped because of my lack of education and work experience.
As time went by, I became an angry mom, a pathetic girlfriend, and the few friendships that had stuck after baby were almost non-existent by the time my baby was three. I was so consumed by “keeping up” that I was literally destroying my life by being an empty shell-a zombie version of the girl that I had once been.
Over the years I floated in and out of depression, completely unaware of the fact that I was NOT just tired from chasing my kids.
The Turning Point
In May of 2016, my parents were involved in a car accident. My Dad was thrown from the vehicle and died on impact. My mom was also in the vehicle, and although her story is not mine to tell, the aftermath of the situation was emotional and devastating.
Chris and I both did our best to pick up the pieces. My Dad had been such a rock for everyone that he knew. I checked out emotionally. It wasn’t on purpose, but I still had to take care of my Mom and my family. It turns out that Chris did the same. We were surviving.
After a few months, Chris and I realized that something needed to change for both of us. Our relationship became almost non-existent as we tried to give each other space. After this realization, we gave each other permission to just go for it. Go for whatever it was that we would need to get better, regardless of what that meant.
Who the Heck Am I?
At this point, I was terrified to just be a “stay-at-home-mom”. There was far too much uncertainty. What if Chris decided to leave? I mean, I hadn’t exactly been a good “wife”, and I was struggling to stay on top of the basics so the value I had as a homemaker had vanished. (Spoiler alert: he didn’t leave.)
Not only that, but I watched my Dad sacrifice his dreams for me, and my family, and I felt so much guilt for holding him back. I didn’t want to wonder what if? for the rest of my life.
I knew that this permission that Chris had given me was the opportunity to change everything. I felt afraid that this was a selfish choice, but I knew that I was failing as a mother because I was so unhappy. It felt like the light at the end of the tunnel to go after something more.
I let everything go. My house, my responsibilities. I did the minimum required to keep things running. Otherwise, the only things I focused on were trying to find myself, and strengthening my relationship with Chris and my kids.
I poured myself into personal development strategies and researched every money making opportunity that I came across. I tried, quit, and failed at many opportunities until I found the business model that felt right.
A Mindful Transformation
Over time, the fog began to lift, and I was able to start picking up the pieces of my home. I’m happy to say that after almost two years of tweaking my routines and systems, I’ve done it.
My home is clean every day, my laundry is almost never behind, and I spend my days spending time with my family and exploring things that fill me up.
My story is not unique. I can tell you that change is possible because it has happened to me. This transformation takes dedication and patience, but it can be a reality if you really want it.
I want you to take control
The best time to start is now! Grab my free SAHM schedule that will help you find time for all. the. things! This is the exact schedule that I use after years of tweaking!